I used to judge loners because they were always alone; I thought it was because nobody liked them. Life changes; loneliness is like a best friend. I have a different perspective on it. My ignorance didn’t allow me to see its meaning and actual feelings. But as a matter of fact, we are never alone.
I did not understand solitude, what it was and the power of it.
In loneliness, I discovered a beautiful part of myself and the understanding of who I am; it opened doors of freedom. Somehow, it feels like I was reborn; this time, I can recode myself from cero.
In solitude, I found what I liked, didn’t like, wanted, and didn’t; I got answers to questions that no one could answer, and even some questions I was scared to ask were answered. Loneliness became one of my best friends. I felt at peace and inspired when we were together. It taught me to Understand deep parts of myself.
I enjoy being solo but don’t get me wrong; I appreciate good companions.
Some people talk about how they dislike to be alone. Everyone has their preferences. However, some intentionally distract themselves so as not to deal with their internal work, which I used to do. Therefore, most are unaware of it. Most of their conversations and interactions don’t have any positive aspects; if they do, it is too little. However, it feels like something vane to participate. However, distractions come not only from people but also from TV, food, social media, games, s3x, etc. Trying to fill a gap with anything other than inner work. Their actions don’t show otherwise.
Now, on the other hand, some interactions are just rich in every aspect, where both parties are interested in topics of high value, empowering comments, ideas and conversations that literary you feel are lifting you, I must say it is delightful and sometimes no one wants to leave, and that is the difference, there is a match and a valance from both energies where no one is sucking from the other’s energy, where both or various are lifting each other.
Of course, I know we all have things to take care of, but one thing is expressing how you feel about getting help, answers, and solutions. Another is not taking the initiative to find solutions and keeping the work up.
There is a vast difference between gathering for equal energetic pleasure and gathering with someone who gets pleasure talking about everything going bad or wrong in the world and all the week’s problems, to say less. Some are graduated on finding more issues. Do you feel me?
Some interactions and companionships can be relatively low-energy, transmitting an unpleasant wave that makes you feel like your energy is leaving your body. That’s what I call true Loneliness. In that case, I would rather be solo.
We can love someone and still not be able to be around them because of their toxicity.
Every human needs some quiet, silence, and solo time daily, a disconnection from the mundane of the world and interactions, to reflect on ourselves and our surroundings, whether living with someone or not.
As I mentioned at the beginning, by not knowing who I was, I judged what I am now, “a loner.” So, I learned to shut my mouth if I don’t know something, educate myself, and investigate Why? How? And when? If I am interested enough.
How do you feel alone, in complete silence, without distraction?
